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Why Can’t We Judge?

25 Feb

images-1I went to a party the other day. My friend had one too many to drink and was having a blast dancing with a couple of guys- all married, while her husband stood back and tried not to watch.  I want to judge.  Does that make me a horrible person?  It’s not that I want to condemn my friend.  It’s not that I think that I am so much better.

But, I think that once we lay off of judging completely, we somehow also lose sight of our values.  Is it so horrible to say that someone is doing it wrong?  Sure, I may not know the whole story.  Maybe, she had a hell of a day- boy can I relate.  Maybe, her husband does the same thing.  Oh and by the way, who says what she did was so wrong?

I don’t know.  I’m just not buying this not judging stuff.  I think she was wrong. I’d like to turn to my kids and say- no way are you going to do that.  Uncool. Getting drunk and dancing with married men, while you are married too?  Nope.  It may not make me hip. But, the flip side of not judging means not standing up for values.

I know you disagree.  Tell me why. Thanks.